A Brief Ramble: Breaking Up with Motivation


Hey, motivation! Yeah…I’m talking to you.  I am officially breaking up with you.  As the old saying goes, “it’s not me, it’s you.”

After years of waiting upon you to bless me with the gumption to achieve my goals, I’ve realized that I’ve been waiting in vain.  A sad truth has FINALLY penetrated my thick skull:  you, motivation, are no friend of mine. You are fickle, you are fleeting, and you are unreliable.

You’d think I’d have figured this out sooner, however, I suspect dealing with depression may have clouded my logic.  Things become a bit hazy as you try to distinguish a lack of motivation rooted in depression from one that is simply the same everyday lack of motivation we all experience from time to time.

I always assumed (quite wrongly) that if I wasn’t feeling motivated, then I should wait until motivation struck again. I thought that if I was truly serious about my goals, motivation would always have my back and carry me onward to success.  This is skewed thinking at its best. The truth is, if I want to achieve my goals, then I need to put nose to the proverbial grindstone and just get on with it, regardless of how I feel.

Motivation is  a great gift when it makes an appearance, but it pays to be wary; much like that two-faced friend we all had in high school, motivation will look you right in the eyeballs and tell you how pretty and awesome you are and then, as soon as your back is turned, gleefully laugh at your gullibility.

Undoubtedly, there will be a period of adjustment as I try to end my dependence upon motivation.  Even so, I will do my best to avoid its stale waiting room of shattered dreams and instead move into the less fickle realm of good ol’ determination. In the meantime, there’s always coffee.


A previous pondering on motivation: https://hattievents.com/2016/02/10/motivation/

The Beginning

Hello!  Are you lost, weary internet adventurer? You have somehow managed to stumble into the loneliest, most untraveled virtual corridors of the internet where my blog resides. If you’re still reading this, you have also decided to give me a moment of your time, perhaps from the sheer exhaustion of your endless browsing, but whatever, I’ll take it!

You may be asking yourself, “What is HattieVents?” or you may not, which is perfectly fine, I won’t judge your lack of curiosity. I’m joking! “Relax will ya, relax!” (Oscar – The Odd Couple.)  This is my small corner of the world where I will be expressing my unedited opinions (although no one has asked me to do so) on many different subjects. A virtual dumping ground, if you will, for all the pollution that fogs up my brain causing me to lose many hours of sleep as I ponder the simple questions of life such as –  Why are we here? Who is God? Why is the world in such a horrible state?  Why are some people so mean to animals? Have I accomplished anything in my life? Should I have cereal or toast for breakfast?? Did I lock the front door??? 

Like all of us, I have opinions about most things.  The problem is, I’ve been hesitant to share mine for most of my life even when asked.  The main reason for this is the fear of offending others,whether parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, random person in Starbucks who insists on making conversation when I am clearly involved in something much more interesting on my phone! However, I’ve reached a point in my life where I simply cannot live that way anymore.  I have opinions and, as long as I do it with respect and grace, I have a right to share those opinions in their undiluted entirety. If someone is offended because my opinion differs from theirs, then I guess that really is their issue, not mine. I’ll just have to remove my rose-colored glasses and accept that we can’t all hold hands while singing “Kumbaya” around the campfire now can we?  And, if I happen to get ridiculed for my opinions, then as my Dad always says “consider the source.” 

I also hope to share and exchange useful information, tips, hints on dealing with some of life’s daily chores and struggles.  I am certainly NOT an expert on much of anything, but you never know when some of the coping strategies you have found useful in certain situations may also help someone else facing similar circumstances. 

So, all that rambling just to say I’ve started a blog, a fairly random blog.  Nobody asked for my opinion, but I’m going to put it out there anyway.  It may be that no one ever reads it and that’s ok too.  It should at least prove a fairly cathartic exercise for me.

Pleasant journey!